Giveaway: Emily Post’s Etiquette: Manners for a New World (Plus a Video from Lizzie Post)


The famous Emily Post, was a pioneer for all things manners and etiquette. While our world has changed drastically since she was giving advice, that doesn’t mean that proper etiquette still does not come into play. When is the appropriate time to use your cell phone when you’re with company? How should you go about splitting a bill while you’re out with friends this summer? Where do you even begin with getting a handle on your kids and their technology? Emily Post’s great-great grandchildren have taken the reins on these hot topics with their newest book, Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition.

Along with giving away a copy of Emily Post’s Etiquette, we’ve asked Emily Post’s great-great granddaughter Lizzie Post a few questions about etiquette when it comes to parties. Check out our questions and her answers in the video below…

Keep reading to find out how to enter for the chance to win a copy of Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition after the jump…


To enter for the chance to win Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition, leave a comment asking Lizzie Post a question about appropriate etiquette for a certain situation.

Here are some ideas:
-What are some tips and tricks for how to simplify group gifting and shared expenses?
-It’s expensive to fit in all the summer activities on your wish list including family gatherings, barbeques and road trips, what’s the best way to pay for entertaining, groceries and other essentials?
-What are the summer’s biggest manner mishaps and what can I do to avoid them?

For additional entries tweet, stumble, or share the giveaway on Facebook and leave a comment each time. Come back and leave a comment every day from now until June 4th at midnight. We will announce the winner here on Prudent Baby.

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40 Comments

hannah

i’ve had this question for ages, but never found a suitable answer. what’s the etiquette surrounding taking communion at a wedding? i’m not religious, and would rather not participate, but is that rude to the couple? thank you!

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Meghan

If you are at a Catholic Church, you may not receive communion unless you a Catholic and free from mortal sin. Some other denominations also have communion, some allow everyone to receive, some do not. When in doubt, err on the side of caution and refrain from receiving.

In all cases, it would never be rude to choose not to participate based on your beliefs. 🙂

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rebecca at thisfineday

Oh yay! I’ve been eyeing this book since you first mentioned it! Okay, so here’s my question: Is it now considered okay to send email thank you “notes”? What if you send a picture or video of the gift receiver expressing gratitude?

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Laura

Is it okay to invite others to a party you’ve been invited to? I’ve seen where people have specifically said to pass on the invitation to others, but just the other day someone invited a person to a party I was hosting.

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Rae

I love listening to Emily & Daniel on the Dinner Party Download! 🙂 My question: How do you navigate extended family commitments in your family when both of you have your family out of state and one is more demanding than the other? (My husband and I live 2hr away from his family, but 10hr away from mine…and mine are the more demanding – going so far as to plan extended family vacations and attempt major gatherings complete with supreme guilt if we do not wish to attend or cannot attend due to work/money. How does one politely say “I love you, and I know I’m the one who moved away, but I want to spend some of my limited free time or money on things for my family and not always at your beck and call?”)

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Christina Lewis

How do you handle always being the only person in your family that does not attend family gatherings? (due to distance and financial constraints)

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Rae

erg – typing/brain fail — Lizzie, not Emily.

I hate my brain. more coffee plz?

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Stephanie

I am hosting a surprise 25th Anniversary party for my parents with my two sisters. My mother is estranged from her fathers side but he was invited to my parents wedding (and he ruined her dress with wine!) Because it is a family event I am unsure whether I should extend the invitation to my grandfather, and half aunt and half uncle. It seems like I should but I am unsure if that will pose a potential problem.

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Sarah R.

Is there a polite way to tell a close family member that you’d prefer it if they didn’t bring gifts every time they see your young child (we’re talking more-than-once-a-month visits, not someone the kid sees rarely)? The stuff is rarely useful or particularly geared toward our child’s actual interests and often ends up being donated, but I hate for the gift giver to keep wasting money. I also don’t like the materialistic message I think it sends to a young child. But maybe there isn’t a polite way to handle it beyond thanking and donating.

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Elizabeth Johnson

How do you explain to young boys that passing gas is not funny especially in public? Sometimes I want to just scream at family gatherings when my grandson and his cousins start having contests at the table while we are eating and no one says a thing except “they are boys”! I am raising him and want to see him be a gentleman.

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Heather

How do I respond tactfully when someone asks what they should get for my child’s birthday gift? I never know what to say.

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Gretchen

I have a good friend who often “overshares” on Facebook: I cringe when I read some of her posts. She is a professional woman and a single Mom, and I’m worried some of her comments could have negative impacts on her career and her relationship with her ex-husband (he’s always criticizing her parenting skills and choices). Is there a gentle way I can caution her to be more selective about what she shares on social media?

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Meghan G.

Lately, I’ve had rude comments made to me after having my baby. Everything from people asking when my next baby is due (I’m not pregnant, but they thought I looked it.), to commenting on how small or big (depending on the commenter) my baby is. Do you just brush it off, or let them know that it’s inappropriate and hurtful to say such things? I usually just make excuses 🙂

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Paula Chase

Is is considered “too rude” to ask the ‘gentleman’ at the next table in the restaurant to take his cell phone conversation outside because I don’t want to hear it?

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Carrie Anne

I’m friends in real life and on Facebook with many moms from meet-ups and play groups. I only wanted to throw a small party for my daughter’s second birthday, so I only invited 4 families. What is the etiquette for posting party photos on Facebook? I worry about the feelings of those that were not invited.

Thanks!

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Jeanine H

We are blessed by generous family and friends. My twins’ birthday us just after Christmas and we always welcome the New Year with an abundance of new toys, and clothing. While we greatly appreciate these gifts, we would also like to be able to enroll our kids in activities like dance, or soccer. Events such as these can last throughout the year – and get expensive for my husband and me to pay for. Is there an appropriate way to request that cash gifts to use towards activities (specifically for the kids) are appreciated? (I’m thinking not, but would love your expert answer.)

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Patricia

What is the best way to handle invitations for a small wedding without upsetting friends and family who are not being invited? We only want a small intimate ceremony and reception and have already had relatives express their disappointment when they attempt to add to our guest list only to be told no thank you.

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Savanah

We always throw parties for birthdays at work, and the girls always buy each other gifts. However, we never buy gifts for the guys! Is that okay? We give them a little party each, too, just without any attached gifts.

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Courtney Ahrenholtz

How do you inexpensively altar your wardrobe to include summer friendly pieces that are pretty, proper and appropriate for playdates, snotty noses and peanut butter sandwiches! I don’t want to look over dressed but I’d love to have a few essential pieces that help me to look and feel polished. Thanks.

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Heather

How do you handle a friend who has started a direct sales business and is pushing you to have a party? I’ve explained numerous times that I can’t for various reasons but it falls on deaf ears. I don’t think there is a good way out of this but figure it doesn’t hurt to ask.

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Hope

I am not sure if this is necessarily an etiquette question but has been bugging me for some time. What is the appropriate age to get your child a cellphone? I have friends that have all different answers and I wasn’t sure if there was a suggested age to do this. Also, my oldest son (4 almost 5) has been getting into playing games on my ipad and iphone. Is there a certain amount of time I should limit this to? He rarely watches TV (I’m totally serious!) and has taken a liking to playing on this devices. I know some parents limit their children to only weekends, but I personally have lived by the standard of “everything in moderation”.

Thank you for writing this book! There are so many parents out there I wish would read it. I am by no means perfect, but I was fortunate to have a mom who could have written her own etiquette book.

Best,
HC

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Evelyn R

When my girls are inviting a friend over to swim this summer, do they have to include that friend’s siblings?

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Alexis

What are your thoughts on knitting in public? Is it ever inappropriate in done quietly and discreetly? How about at a lecture or a movie, concert or theatrical performance? Some knitting doesn’t require me to look at it at all so I am free to watch the performance. I’m clearly an obsessed knitter, but don’t wish to offend others.

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Alexis

What are your thoughts on knitting in public? Is it ever inappropriate if done quietly and discreetly? How about at a lecture or a movie, concert or theatrical performance? Some knitting doesn’t require me to look at it at all so I am free to watch the performance. I’m clearly an obsessed knitter, but don’t wish to offend others.

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melissa

How can I give my teenage daughter constructive criticism when her immediate response will be that I’m being mean and rude?

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Beth T.

I suffer from chronic migraines. Is there a polite way to ask others to speak more softly when they visit us? If they were children I would remind them to use “indoor voices”, but all the adults in my husband’s family seem to prefer talking at a high volume, making their visits literally painful for me.

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Lily Kwan

What would you recommend using for opening and closing greetings in email?

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JJ

Hi!
I’ve noticed recently from attending children’s birthday parties and wedding showers that I’ve either have not received a “thank you” note or have been receiving electronic “thank you” emails through whatever evite program the host has used. Has the written “thank you” note become outdated?

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Jess Z

I have a girlfriend who enjoys going on double dates with me and my husband. She’s a divorced, professional mom who has been with her boyfriend for about two years- on and off. The past couple of dates, they have ordered the most expensive bottle of wine, appetizers and dessert for themselves, but when the bill comes, they have somehow already told the waiter that we were splitting the bill in half. This has caused us to pay about $150-$200 more than what our bill should have been. My husband simply pays it and we leave, but I feel extremely used and upset. Yes, we can afford it, but we don’t spend money so frivolously unless it’s a celebration or special occasion. They’re both pharmacists and he does real estate on the side as well, so I know it’s not a financial issue on their end either. How do I address my girlfriend without being offensive? My husband’s suggestion was to limit my interactions with her to shopping, spa/pedicure ventures and such.

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Andi S

I sew/craft but not as a trade and do not mind making the occasional project for a friend or family member, especially those that offer compensation of some sort for my time and materials. The problem is that I have a few people who only seem to talk to me when they need me to make them something. These are immediate family members for the most part, which is what makes it more frustrating. How do I tactfully decline since it seems that they are just taking advantage of my ability to make things? I don’t want to put a strain on any family relations by being rude.

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Cheryl

How do you respond when asked a very personal question you have no intention of answering?

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Sarah L

What’s the best way to handle strict dietary needs when dining at the house of an acquaintance or new friend?

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