Six days ago I received an email from someone claiming to be my biological sister. As I detail in the video above from the day this all happened, this one random email led me to the discovery that I was adopted as a baby. I never knew I was not biologically related to my parents or my four brothers and sisters. This was a shock, as you can imagine, and I’ve been experiencing a lot of emotions. I decided to start chronicling my experience by keeping a video diary. I’ve made four entries, the first of which is above. If you want to see the rest, you can visit our You Tube Channel. They are quite raw, and I’m not sure how often I will update from here on out, but I guess I will check in when I have made some progress with my feelings and/or made some decisions about what or how much information I want to pursue from the biological family that has tried to get in touch with me.
When I shared these videos on our facebook page, I received an avalanche of support. I’ve read every one of the thousands of comments and emails you’ve sent me and they have been SO helpful. Please, keep sharing. I’m finding as I go through the process of coming to terms with this revelation that there are a million ways to feel and so many choices to make. For now, I’m letting the news settle in and not moving forward with finding out anymore information until I think I am ready to handle it. I always want to be sensitive to my family (I am not ready to start calling them my “adoptive” family, which my therapist did in our very first conversation – that freaked me out) and to this person, my biological sister, as I navigate these waters. If you know anyone who discovered late in life that they were adopted, I’d love to learn more about their stories – there doesn’t seem to be a lot of resources out there for this particular situation, or maybe I just haven’t found them yet.
Thank you all for your support, your thoughts mean so much to me, I don’t even have the words.